Dating Daycare
Welcome to "Dating Daycare," the ultimate safe space for women navigating the unpredictable world of modern dating. Join hosts Melissa Firpo and Allison Waterman as they dish out candid advice, share hilarious anecdotes, and tackle the toughest dating dilemmas faced by women today.
In a dating landscape filled with frogs disguised as princes and a jungle of jerks, Melissa and Allison offer a nurturing haven where women can laugh, learn, and empower each other to find love on their own terms. From ghosting to breadcrumbing, from disastrous first dates to navigating online profiles, "Dating Daycare" covers it all with wit, wisdom, and plenty of wine.
With Melissa's no-nonsense approach and Allison's comedic charm, each episode feels like a heart-to-heart chat with your best girlfriends over brunch. Whether you're swiping left or swiping right, "Dating Daycare" is your go-to guide for surviving and thriving in the wild world of modern romance.
So grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and join Melissa and Allison as they navigate the highs, lows, and hilarities of dating life. Because when it comes to matters of the heart, everyone could use a little TLC from "Dating Daycare.
Dating Daycare
F'n Fish Bowl of REAL CRAZY DATING STORIES - "THE THONG GUY"
What happens when guilt trumps practicality in matters of child support? Find out as we confront societal norms and personal dilemmas head-on. In this episode of Dating Daycare, we unravel a listener's predicament: deciding whether to pursue child support years after a guilt-ridden divorce. Join us as Melissa and Allison tackle the complexities of child support with their signature blend of humor and unfiltered advice. They delve into the significance of financial security for children, regardless of past relationships or personal emotions, making sure you’re equipped to make the right decisions for your child's future.
Expect a no-holds-barred discussion as we dissect the intricacies of state-specific child support laws and explore the emotional aftermath of divorce. With real-life anecdotes and straightforward guidance, we emphasize why it's crucial to secure what is rightfully due for your child’s well-being. Whether you're dealing with a similar situation, or simply want to be prepared for whatever life throws your way, this episode promises invaluable insights. Tune in to discover the importance of pursuing child support—even when the past is complicated—and learn how to prioritize your children amidst the chaos of modern relationships.
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Welcome to Dating Daycare. I'm Melissa, I'm Allison, and we are here to help you navigate through the jungle of jerks. Here we are, ladies. We are back again for another fucking fishbowl. You know when you're like oh my God, the fishbowl. That's exactly how it is. That's the fishbowl you ready when?
Speaker 2:it like when you're like, oh my God, the fishbowl.
Speaker 1:That's exactly how that's the fish. You ready? Sigh, yes, are you ready? Mm-hmm, all right, all right, dig in. This is where we take questions from real people and we help you with it. Whoa, you always say that Someone's got to ask a question. It's got to be somewhat lengthy.
Speaker 1:Opinions on receiving child support years after a divorce. I never requested child support out of guilt, I felt, for leaving. My ex-husband has remarried and he's well off financially. I am also remarried and a stay-at-home mom to my children. We have one child together. We have 50-50 parenting plan. His income is high and he is self-employed. I have zero income of my own.
Speaker 1:The courts do not count a step. Parent's income, okay, I'm wanting to know some opinions on what I should do. I've never received a dime from him out of choice. He is a great father and spends his own money on him whenever he has him. He is remarried and has to act like I am the spawn of Satan when his new wife is around, as they try to make her the main communicator regarding our child. I have never done anything to cause issues to their relationship. As a matter of fact, she moved into my house while we were separating, and still while we were separating and still married, interesting. What would you do if you were me? All right, I guess this is for me right, because you're not familiar with this.
Speaker 1:This is not my realm, okay so first of all, this is always my opinion. Women, listen to me. When you are getting separated, you're married, not married. But child support comes into the picture. You always go for child support. What is due to you In New York State? Now, I know this is different per state, I know everybody has different, but here it is a percentage. I believe it is 15% for one child, 25% for two children, 25% for two children. I believe those could be off numbers. Anyway, you go for that and listen Out of the goodness of your heart after you're awarded it.
Speaker 1:If you want to take all that child support and put it into a college fund and never use it until your kid has to go to college. Let's say you want to gift it to your ex-husband every Christmas, back to him, by all, has to go to college. Let's say you want to gift it to your ex-husband every Christmas, back to him, by all means, go do so. But if you don't ask for it and you don't get it, the day always comes where you're like oh shit, I didn't realize my kids were going to go to the most expensive camp on Long Island. I didn't realize they were going to get bullied at their school. And now I'm considering private school. I didn't realize cars were going to be $40,000. You know what I'm trying to Instead of Every single woman I know always rounds about like this. So this is my. This is what I have to offer.
Speaker 1:Her first mistake was feeling guilt for him having to pay for their child when they got. Whether you cheat on him, you leave we're at a Norfolk state. No matter what, the man is always obligated to pay child support. It doesn't matter if you were a prostitute and cheated on him with 100 men by the time you got divorced You're due that, and that money is supposed to go towards the children. It is supposed to go towards a roof over their head, food. Whatever you need it, always get your child support Because when they get to a new family or remarried and have possibly stepchildren, those children, the priorities shift and those children become, if not priority, priority just as important as the child you had to get.
Speaker 1:Otherwise the woman would kick him out. Imagine moving in with the men where your children are not priority now, but his ex-wife is with. It doesn't work. So if the relationship is going to be steady, it's they're all going to have to be priority. And now he's going to say well, I got three, four kids and I don't have the money to be paying you. You know, $5,000 a month, because she said he did very well. So I understand the fact.
Speaker 1:She also did mention that he spends money on him and gets him anything, but that doesn't. That's not enough. That's not camp and extracurricular activities and Christmas presents or whatever holiday birthday parties, all these things come up. So she should absolutely, and she will get back pay if she goes. Let's say it's the kid seven years old and he didn't pay for seven years the car, but now you're going to have a fight. So you got to weigh that in your mind. But she should have asked it from the beginning and then there would have been no fight because it was dude, it was owed, and she could have given it all back to him in a birthday present. Buy him a ferrari, if you want, no really, but she should have gotten it. Now it's gonna be a fight now it's gonna be a fight, but she's owed it.
Speaker 1:they'll'll give it to her, but this always comes up. You never know what those kids Apple iPads, whatever Beats you name, it comes up.
Speaker 2:All right, ready for number two.
Speaker 1:Reach in far, the fucking fishbowl, the fishbowl. Okay, all right. What do we got? What do we got? Okay, all right, what do we got?
Speaker 2:What do we got? Recently, I saw thumbnails on my partner's phone that weren't of me. Ooh, when I asked him, he told me that they were his Concerned. I wanted to see them, so he sent them to me. There were quite a few of him posing in different thongs. Ooh, quite a few of him posing in different thongs. He's basically having photo shoots with himself at my apartment on my bed while I'm at work.
Speaker 1:I asked him if the pictures were intended for someone else and he assured me it was for his own private use. So wait, he's taking half-naked pictures of himself in thongs at her apartment while she's at work, supposedly for him. Okay, keep reading. I had to get it straight Go on, go on.
Speaker 2:Okay, I don't know what to think.
Speaker 1:Oh, I'll tell you what to think, sweetheart, but keep going.
Speaker 2:This has been weighing heavily on me.
Speaker 1:I still don't know if you Don't, of course.
Speaker 2:I still don't know. Don't make me laugh. I still don't know if he was taking them for someone else or for himself. He's been doing this since September. I really don't think he's just been doing it since September, honey. Okay, but go on. He's been doing a lot of self-exploration in my life Okay, go on, go on. Okay, but go on. He's been doing a lot of self-exploration in my Okay, go on, go on. Okay, sorry, and using my lady items without my knowledge, and he's dressing in girls' clothes. There was a video. I have so many emotions about all this, but all I keep thinking about is why hide something like this from me and why those positions? I just need some honest opinions as to why he something like this from me and why those positions. I just need some honest opinions as to why he would do this and then keep it from me.
Speaker 1:All right, because he's gay or bi. That's why the guy is gay or bi, so he's dressing. Now, I thought that was a man's thong.
Speaker 2:So listen, you know, I actually used to want to be a sexologist, so I quite seriously studied this at some point. Okay, give us, most cross-dressing men are heterosexual.
Speaker 1:It's a fact they just want to look like a woman. They just it they.
Speaker 2:It evokes some kind of emotion that makes them feel good, like chris jenner's.
Speaker 1:What's his name? The um. You know who I'm talking about.
Speaker 2:No, that's transsexual.
Speaker 1:He wants to change his body.
Speaker 2:See, I get confused with all this, this man presumably does not want to change his body. He feels like a heterosexual man.
Speaker 1:Well, we don't know that.
Speaker 2:If he's a cross-dresser, chances are he's a heterosexual man who just feels good wearing thongs.
Speaker 1:Okay, but wait a minute. Wait a minute. Okay, he's hiding it because he's embarrassed now wait, who is he sending the pictures?
Speaker 2:to. He's definitely sending it to someone to who? Yeah.
Speaker 1:Men, not women. We do not want to look at a man in a thong we don't, doesn't, do it for me.
Speaker 1:We do not, I wouldn't say we All right, listen, you know there's going to be that 5% of the population that's like. My man wears a thong all the time. All right, I'm not talking about you, the 5%, I'm talking about the vast majority. None of my girlfriends or my cousins have requested their men to be in thongs. Now, if your man is dressing and taking videos and thumbnails, they're not for him. No, he's sending this to somebody. I'm going to say he's sending it to another male.
Speaker 2:I would like a follow-up on this. I would like to know if she— yeah, but we can't get a follow-up on this. I would like to know if she. Yeah, but we can't get a follow-up. This is anonymous, we can't. Maybe she could DM us or something.
Speaker 1:Okay, but he's either gay or a cross-dresser. And guess what? Sweetheart, we don't have time for this. This is not your thing to fix. This is not something you can fix. This is not something you can fix. This is not something you did wrong. It's not like you gained some weight and you weren't sexy enough, and you know. And now you cause no, no, no, no, no he is bi or gay or cross-dressed or heterosexual and any one of those in this category. I mean I'm gonna straight.
Speaker 1:I'm gonna shoot off the hip here. No one has time for that. He needs to go with another cross he needs to find his own group.
Speaker 2:She needs to either accept him the way he is or reject and move on and he's hiding it so there needs to be a conversation about this.
Speaker 1:she needs to take this to him, have a full conversation, ask him why he's doing it and see what he says. But if I ever found my ex in a thong posing in sexual positions on my bed, for me personally my day's done, I'm done. That's enough for me to be done. I don't need to find out anymore.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I don't think I would be into it, so she needs to find out.
Speaker 1:does she really want to know more or does she because, personally, I don't need to know more, I just am gonna walk away.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, yeah, I don't. No, it's not for me.
Speaker 1:It's not for you. Allison says it's not for her.
Speaker 2:Yeah, okay.
Speaker 1:So that is our, that is our fuck. It's a fucking fishbowl today. I'll tell you that was, that was, was too. I know, but I always get that sigh after the fucking fish like the. You know cause these people are really posting these questions online on social media because they don't have anybody to ask. So they're asking the to get everybody's opinion, and they are doozies. That's why I print them out.
Speaker 2:It's wild out there.
Speaker 1:It's wild, but she needs to say adios.
Speaker 2:Yeah, or you know, go shopping with him at, you know.
Speaker 1:La Perla Pick out fountains together yeah.
Speaker 2:Yeah, la Perla, it's a good one, it's a good one.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right. So, ladies, that was our fishbowl of the day.
Speaker 2:Thank you.
Speaker 1:Thank you for watching.
Speaker 2:See you next time. We hope we helped you.
Speaker 1:And if you have any of your own questions that we could shove into the fishbowl the effing fishbowl, the fucking fishbowl Please DM us or email us or comment us and we will print it out and shove it in there, because we always need different fishbowl issues For the effing fishbowl yes. All right, have a good day. We'll see you next time. Thank you, bye, bye.
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