Dating Daycare
Welcome to "Dating Daycare," the ultimate safe space for women navigating the unpredictable world of modern dating. Join hosts Melissa Firpo and Allison Waterman as they dish out candid advice, share hilarious anecdotes, and tackle the toughest dating dilemmas faced by women today.
In a dating landscape filled with frogs disguised as princes and a jungle of jerks, Melissa and Allison offer a nurturing haven where women can laugh, learn, and empower each other to find love on their own terms. From ghosting to breadcrumbing, from disastrous first dates to navigating online profiles, "Dating Daycare" covers it all with wit, wisdom, and plenty of wine.
With Melissa's no-nonsense approach and Allison's comedic charm, each episode feels like a heart-to-heart chat with your best girlfriends over brunch. Whether you're swiping left or swiping right, "Dating Daycare" is your go-to guide for surviving and thriving in the wild world of modern romance.
So grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and join Melissa and Allison as they navigate the highs, lows, and hilarities of dating life. Because when it comes to matters of the heart, everyone could use a little TLC from "Dating Daycare.
Dating Daycare
Part 2 - follow-up to episode with BRENDA - "Secret Lives Of Dating Lies"
Ever wondered about the hidden complexities of modern dating? Join us in a candid conversation with Brenda as she shares her eye-opening journey through the world of dating daycare. From the perils of prolonged digital chatting to the often-ignored red flags in long-distance relationships, Brenda opens up about her experiences and lessons learned. Together, we dissect how social media and dating apps have shifted the dating landscape, yet many challenges remain unchanged, such as balancing priorities and setting realistic expectations for future proximity in long-distance love stories.
As we conclude this enlightening episode, we extend our heartfelt thanks to Brenda for her courage and insights, which have sparked valuable discussions and reflections. We are also immensely grateful to our listeners for their continued support and enthusiasm, which fuels our passion for bringing honest and relatable content to the forefront. With excitement brimming for future episodes, we renew our commitment to being your trusted guide through the ever-evolving realm of dating advice, showcasing real-life experiences that empower and inspire your journey to finding a healthy, fulfilling relationship.
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Welcome to Dating Daycare, where we help you navigate through the jungle of jerks. Ladies, my name is Melissa, I'm Allison and last week we had an amazing episode with Brenda.
Speaker 2:Let's just recap that because I loved that that was so much fun.
Speaker 1:I love doing that Once again. My favorite part is when we have guests on real women with real stories that our guests can relate to.
Speaker 2:And this one was a little different because it ended on a high note.
Speaker 1:It did. What did we learn? What did we learn? Allison? So?
Speaker 2:on the apps on the dating websites, as you would say, and Allison so on the apps on the dating websites, as you would say, red flag when a guy does not move quickly, not too quickly, but within a reasonable amount of time, from the app to planning a date. No bueno, if they want to prolong this talking back and forth part to kind of have a pen pal Pen pal. A month, a month of this, no, a month. We're not doing that. Well, she said it.
Speaker 1:But that was cool.
Speaker 2:Back in the day.
Speaker 1:Right Back in the day.
Speaker 2:But still it goes on.
Speaker 1:Today, women entertain that still. I like how there's that parallel. Like we said, even though her story was from a few years ago, it is parallel to what I see women complaining about still to this day, nothing has changed except the actual app and how it works and how social media allows you to communicate, maybe a little faster than it did before. Maybe a little faster than it did before, but we learned that he took too long to plan a date, which men can do, whether you meet them on an app or, naturally, out. Like me, you meet a guy out at a bar, at a restaurant, through a friend, in weeks and we'll go. I can't, I can't get together. Same thing, either or.
Speaker 2:There's a reason why he quote can't. Or he's not that into you Exactly so whether it's that he's married and his wife is in Pittsburgh and his two babies are in Pittsburgh, that was a plot twist, yeah.
Speaker 1:Or in Pittsburgh, that was a plot twist, yeah.
Speaker 2:Or he just really has three other girls on the roster who he cares about more than you. It doesn't matter, that's not your business, we don't have time for that. No, we don't.
Speaker 1:And, like I said, which I've experienced, when the male moves so far away from the children and claims that the better job wasn't able to afford it, like. Whatever the excuse is, I'm sorry, but for me that will always, consistently now be a red flag for the rest of my life. I don't care what the reason. If you could plant me down in Hawaii and I could get a job in Hawaii, I can.
Speaker 1:You could plant me down in Tennessee, hawaii, texas, alaska, italy. You could plant me down in Italy, and if my kids were with, that's where I'd stay within a reasonable amount of driving time. You know what I mean. Half hour, 40 minutes hour at the most, like Long Island to Manhattan. Okay, yeah, but once you start moving out of state I still say red flag.
Speaker 2:With babies, or even kids, even a 10-year-old. You know what I?
Speaker 1:mean Unless they're off to college and you decided to move out of state. All right, I get it. They're in Tennessee at college. You're in Long Island. They're adults now.
Speaker 2:Right, yep, what else? What was the other one, the?
Speaker 1:other one was he kept making excuses and had no time for her once they got together.
Speaker 2:Right Again, not a good sign. I could say that I had the displeasure and I only learned this recently. There was a guy who I met up with, had a great time, good chemistry, and he would make plans only to break them last minute time and time and time again. I only learned through that are we dating the same guy that he happened to be married with two kids, living in Sweden, had a job here, yeah, has a job here in tech, has a job here in tech, so he actually does live here.
Speaker 2:But yeah, the reason why he would break our dates is because he had to go home to his wife.
Speaker 1:Same scenario as Brenda. Okay, so once again, long distance does not work Long distance relationship ladies typically not all, because I know I'm going to get a lot of you that are like I had a five year long day and we're married now. No, I'm not talking about you, I'm talking about the majority Long distance relationships unless somebody moves back or forth.
Speaker 2:Unless there's a plan, a concrete plan put in place at this date we are going to be living in the same place or a plan to move, yeah, same place, or plan to move, yeah, or getting a plan to move Switching If it's just in the air Right.
Speaker 1:Switching your job, making an effort okay, and what else. And I can't believe the ex-wife or the wife she thought was the ex-wife but really he was still married. Um contacted her by email a few months later and once again, if you're out there, girl, whoever you are, I want to hear from you the ex-wife now. Hopefully she's the ex-wife. Oh, I would love to hear her side of the story.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she would be able to put some pieces of the puzzle together. Yeah, it would be awesome. There's another point here. We're missing another red flag, aren't we?
Speaker 1:No, I think that was all the red flags. She went, she dated him. He didn't have time, he was out of state, he kept traveling back and forth for his kid. We discussed that. No, I think that those were really the big major points of that disaster. But the good thing is and we're so happy for Brenda that she's been dating somebody she met in match for seven years now. He was a stand-up guy, did all the right things.
Speaker 1:You know what were his green flags, that he was divorced for three years before he got back into the dating field, got his shit together, then went out to date. A lot of these men Once again, ladies, they are not prepared to date. They are not financially or emotionally prepared to date, but they're doing it because why not? If you'll accept it, they'll do. I mean, listen Netflix and chill all day because they have no money, or I mean the stories, but anyway. But now she waited till he was ready.
Speaker 2:And he was a guy who would initiate dates.
Speaker 1:Yep, took her out to decent, nice places, initiated dates. Yeah, was divorced, had his own home Financially stable. She's financially stable and it's worked for them. You don't have to go running to move in with a man or have a man move in with you.
Speaker 2:Oh yeah, so that was something that we liked, that they have been living separately since, yeah, and listen.
Speaker 1:at every stage of your life different things make sense. We're not saying what makes sense at 20 when you want to have kids still makes sense when you're my age and done having children? Of course not. But never run to move in with somebody because the aftermath of that is a nightmare Getting them out or you getting out. It's all not good. So before you move in, you better be dating. She's been dating her boyfriend for seven years now. They're talking about in the future, retiring and then moving in together, which, after dating somebody consistently for seven years with no red flags, everything's going.
Speaker 2:She knows what she's getting into.
Speaker 1:She knows what she's getting into. She most likely knows when she moves in with him now when they go to Florida. I think she said she wanted to do that. It's going to be even better than it was now. You don't have to worry about people changing certain things coming up. Kids need it. It's all done with. It makes sense. With it makes sense.
Speaker 2:Make it make sense maybe she has someone, her man has someone single yeah, I already asked.
Speaker 1:I already asked when I was walking around. I already said hey, brenda, if you know anyone that's been divorced for at least three years, send them our way yep, alright, she didn't know anyone, though, no one knows.
Speaker 2:Maybe the next step, yeah, no one knows that, no one knows at least no one knows anyone that they'd be willing to uh refer to us, because they're usually single for a reason.
Speaker 1:Yes, exactly hey, but listen, our audience is out there. If you know anyone, let us know that you didn't take for yourself. Maybe it's your brother, your cousin. Send them over here to Allison. Send them, send them our way what about you, maybe, maybe, maybe you know me. I'm probably going to dial them, but there's a possibility. Now I have a lot of those boundaries, those borders, those things I won't do, but alright.
Speaker 2:That's another show.
Speaker 1:It's another show. It's a good episode. Yes, thank you, brenda, we enjoyed you All right. Thank you for watching us on Dating Daycare. We hope we're helpful, we know we're helpful and we hope to see you soon. Thank you for listening. Thank you, bye, dating.
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