Dating Daycare
Welcome to "Dating Daycare," the ultimate safe space for women navigating the unpredictable world of modern dating. Join hosts Melissa Firpo and Allison Waterman as they dish out candid advice, share hilarious anecdotes, and tackle the toughest dating dilemmas faced by women today.
In a dating landscape filled with frogs disguised as princes and a jungle of jerks, Melissa and Allison offer a nurturing haven where women can laugh, learn, and empower each other to find love on their own terms. From ghosting to breadcrumbing, from disastrous first dates to navigating online profiles, "Dating Daycare" covers it all with wit, wisdom, and plenty of wine.
With Melissa's no-nonsense approach and Allison's comedic charm, each episode feels like a heart-to-heart chat with your best girlfriends over brunch. Whether you're swiping left or swiping right, "Dating Daycare" is your go-to guide for surviving and thriving in the wild world of modern romance.
So grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and join Melissa and Allison as they navigate the highs, lows, and hilarities of dating life. Because when it comes to matters of the heart, everyone could use a little TLC from "Dating Daycare.
Dating Daycare
LIVE ON TIKTOK: strange answers to our FISH BOWL stories.
In a world where dating norms are evolving at a rapid pace, our recent episode of Dating Daycare took to TikTok to explore the burning question: Who pays for a date? We dived into live discussions where your input shaped the conversation, unpacking the emotional stakes behind financial responsibilities in dating. With a mix of humor, honesty, and real-life anecdotes, we navigated the complexities of traditional dating expectations versus modern norms, helping listeners navigate this jungle of jerks.
During our live session, we confronted challenging perspectives about gender roles, exploring how shifts in society—from the feminist movement to women's financial independence—have rewritten the rules of romance. We tackled the uncomfortable yet important topic of how these changes might impact the dating experience, and addressed some of the common pitfalls aspiring daters encounter when venturing into this space.
Listeners also raised relevant inquiries about the nature of spontaneity in dates and how these varying definitions affect overall connection. Throughout the discussion, energetic exchanges and laughter encouraged a deeper understanding of shared expectations—making it clear that there is no one-size-fits-all answer.
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Welcome to Dating Daycare where we help you navigate through the jungle of jerks. And today we have an amazing show because we're doing something revolutionary.
Speaker 3:Never been done before.
Speaker 1:Never been done before, had the great idea because I'm always on TikTok, as you might know, the Tiki Talkie.
Speaker 3:The Tiki Talkie. This is new to me, yes.
Speaker 1:Yeah, it's like dating websites to me. Today we are doing an episode where we're live on TikTok and we're filming in the production studio, so we thought this might work really well for those of you that are TikTok fans. If you catch us on a live. We're going to do this periodically, see how it takes off, and that way you can write your questions in. We will see them.
Speaker 2:We'll go over them Live interaction.
Speaker 3:We'll be able to answer your questions live.
Speaker 1:You won't have to write in, so it's a fun little thing. I think, yeah, I'm excited we're going to do this quite a few times. That way you'll get to see our studio. You'll get to see how we work, what we do Our outfits.
Speaker 1:you know Our producer Rob our outfits, what we look like. So it'll be fun because a lot of new people are like oh, we want to see you live and I think we're going on youtube soon, can't wait. Yep, we're gonna go live on youtube because I know a lot of people are like we want to see what you look like versus just listening to us the voices, see if they match right exactly all that fun stuff.
Speaker 1:Okay, so we've been on live for a little while and of course it's going to take time to, you know, acclimate acclimate.
Speaker 3:We got a very good question from someone. We have to pronounce his name correctly. It's Wise. Guy, it's three letter wise and guy.
Speaker 1:So yeah, so he said who pays for a date, man or woman, or the one who asks?
Speaker 3:And he says this is more of an ethical question to him. It's not. It's not A financial yeah, a financial kind of thing. It's not a financial kind of thing, so of course of our fans.
Speaker 1:You know what we're going to answer. It's the man's job. It's the man's job to plan the date. It's the man's job to decide where you're going to go and to pay for the date. Absolutely, protect, provide, take control. Now it's our obligation to look pretty, get ready for the date and go. And you know, talk, have fun.
Speaker 3:I mean, everyone has a kind of different perspective. We're coming, obviously, from the place where women assume a more traditionally feminine role and the man has the more traditional masculine role, but it's not necessarily assigned to gender. There are women who take charge, but generally they will do better with men who are kind of lean back and let the woman take charge. That's not us, we're the other way.
Speaker 1:But I don't understand. There is not one logical explanation you can give me when it's a first date and you're just meeting somebody for the woman to pay.
Speaker 3:No, no, I agree, there's not one.
Speaker 1:I don't care if the woman makes $5.7 million a year.
Speaker 3:There are some women who feel that if a man pays, that they owe them something. There are women who really do feel this way, like, oh, he automatically thinks that he has access to my body because he bought me a plate of food.
Speaker 1:But that's up to the woman.
Speaker 2:I mean that's on her, really, that's on her.
Speaker 1:No one has access to you unless you allow access.
Speaker 3:Yeah, and it's just, it's just. It's not sexy. I'm sorry if I got it.
Speaker 1:Ew, it's such a turn-off wise guy, Like if I was on a date with somebody and they even no. Do you know what guys are doing?
Speaker 3:now in New York City. We see this a lot online where women say that if there is not a connection on a first date and the man feels kind of taken advantage of or put out to the point that he will Venmo request the woman for half of the cost of a date.
Speaker 1:Yeah Listen, you can Venmo as much as you want, the request would be denied. You know what? That's part of being a man, the part you want to date a woman. Then it's your obligation to have a job, have money, ask the woman out, plan the coffee or the dessert bar or the restaurant or the lunch or the brunch or the movie or the whatever it is If it's too much for you in any realm, it's just not for you.
Speaker 3:If it's too much financially, it's too much effort. If it's too much effort and it's too much financially, it's too much effort, you know, if it's too much effort, and it's too much financially for you.
Speaker 1:You don't belong in the dating pool. No okay, because that means you can't make a decision. Yeah, you don't have enough money to protect and provide. I mean, I don't. You know, if you can't pay for a date, you obviously can't pay for your rent or your house or your mortgage or your car payment, or I mean it just screams loser I'm being honest, tell us how you really feel, honey.
Speaker 3:That's how I really feel. So yeah, I think that was a great question, and then this yeah, okay, rob is scrolling up.
Speaker 1:We need to scroll down, scroll down. So any of you that are just joining, we are on dating daycare today and we are going live and we are trying to get some uh, questions, questions. So please ask questions. If you have an issue with men, women dating, question, anything for us. That's what we're here for. If you haven't tuned in to our podcast, we've had divorce attorneys on, we've had matchmakers on, we've had people who navigate through the dating websites on Successfully, successfully. We've had therapists on and we've had it all. So please subscribe to Dating Daycare and let us know what you think.
Speaker 3:Big ups to BigBear82, a UPS driver on break. Thank you for listening. Please subscribe and give us a nice little review. Scroll down.
Speaker 1:Is it Down, down, down? Where's Waldo?
Speaker 3:Hello from the toilet.
Speaker 1:Yep, chris Q. You're the reason why we have this podcast. Okay, yep, so anyway, we can talk about other stuff too while we're waiting here. Like I said, if you're just joining, please ask us a question. We want to try and go live while we're producing and taping our podcast. That way you guys could ask us questions right off the cuff and we can answer them quickly and efficiently. Yeah, now please.
Speaker 2:So I think, a great question that you guys should address, right now yeah, tell us about women seeing men comment on your feed like this yeah, does this ever work?
Speaker 3:Right yeah, right yeah yeah.
Speaker 2:Awesome seeing men comment on your feed like this yeah, does this ever work, right? Yeah, awesome, yeah, right now is this a successful tactic? No guys seeing your feed right now and be like oh, two nice ladies, I'm gonna comment to get their attention. Okay, cool, no wedding ring now, hi, gorgeous. Like, does this stuff actually work?
Speaker 1:see, but but you know what? Here's the thing. I don't think they're looking for it to work Like. I think that guy probably was sitting there on the toilet. He'll never see us.
Speaker 3:See, you know what Men grow a big set of balls when they're not behind the screen and a computer and it's never in the supermarket, in the produce aisle, never, no never.
Speaker 1:So I think all these, like this other guy commented before, like who takes the biggest dumps between? Yeah, who takes the biggest dump between the both of you? Like it's not, it's just meant to be annoying. Oh here's one I'll be 60s. You see, wise guy misses. He's saying I'll be 60s, you miss a lot of 60 is the new 40, though don't, don't it don't be sad, it is I'm sure you look great but there are a lot of guys out there that are traditional daters.
Speaker 1:They're still out and there's a lot of guys that aren't. But you know what, with this new wave, I'll tell you this wise guy with these women and I'll say it because I'm the one who's always saying what I feel when these women out there decided to take on the man's role because they started making money in the workplace and decided to start him something and getting this sort of mind frame, it's not even anymore. It's like off kilter.
Speaker 3:Yeah, the roles are flip-flopped.
Speaker 1:The roles are flip-flopped and that's why you have a hard time saying, oh, I miss a lot of the traditional dating scene.
Speaker 3:It's a whole big thing. It's the post-70s sexual revolution where women could take charge of their fertility and decide when to have. It's all part of the thing.
Speaker 1:But you know what? It's stupid, and let me tell you why Because I love that the women are going out there and I'm just saying I'm going to the financial aspect of this because otherwise there's a relationship living with each other. Then you have, you know, I'm taking the traditional role here If it's not finance, then it's taking out the garbage. Let's just take roles that you know're used to men doing fixing the roof, you know, putting in a new window. So I'm not going to go to that side, so I'm going to stick to the financial side. These women could have gone out, got their careers, got their money and still said to the men it's for me, you still pay for what you always paid for the bills, the dates, the you know whatever. And now the $150,000 I'm making, that's for me. But they didn't do that.
Speaker 1:They sat there and said, oh, let me start paying the mortgage while I'm with you, because I can. Let me start paying for the dates, because I can. Let me start paying for, you know, the electric, because I can. And then the men got lazy.
Speaker 3:And then the men said that's what I'm talking about. The polarity always has to be there. You can't have two masculine role people, because you'll be butting heads. You can't have two very laid back feminine people or nothing will ever get done. So when a woman assumes that traditionally masculine role, the guy naturally just backs off, yeah, become, and then the man's like this is great, I've never had so much money in my life.
Speaker 1:Now I'm gonna go buy the car I want or go, and then you're stuck slaving away because you're still going and all the money that you could have saved, ladies, buying your own Porsche. You decided to pay the mortgage and all the bills with, when in reality, the man should have been paying it like he did back in the day, and you should have been out there buying the Porsche or getting yourself a pair of Louboutins.
Speaker 2:But instead you wanted to pay an electric bill.
Speaker 1:I'll never understand it, but that's us wise guy. Nowadays it seems like a game of who conditions who.
Speaker 3:From the beginning, I get that I think there's a lot of people look at dating and interacting with each other as like a game, and a game of one-upsmanship who has the upper hand instead of just and a game of one-upsmanship.
Speaker 1:Who has the upper hand instead of just? But the fact that people, the fact that women or men even like, for instance, who conditions who With me? Wise guy, you don't even get the opportunity to do that. So, for instance, if we went out first of all, if you didn't plan the date and pay for it, you'd never hear from me again. So you never get to condition me, because if you're not, if you want to say old school, because that's how I am to a point right.
Speaker 1:It's just not a match for you, you wouldn't even get that far with me. It wouldn't even be a match Like I'd be underwhelmed and move on.
Speaker 3:Do you think? I don't think the feminist movement killed chivalry per se? I mean, it's a.
Speaker 1:I'm just asking do the feminists, do you think? Do you all think, the feminist movement killed chivalry? I think women getting into the workplace started it all. I do women's lib.
Speaker 3:No, it's very complex.
Speaker 1:Um it is but once women started getting into the work field and being able to earn. Where the men was the owner, you know, earner and the women stayed home, the dynamic changed. That's what originally changed the dynamic when women were were capable, able. I don't know what way you want to put it don't come for me uh I mean I go and start working and making enough money to live, yeah, but also I mean everyone everyone's um definition of feminism feel is a bit different.
Speaker 3:I've always considered myself a feminist and I always appreciated chivalry. Like I came from, an upbringing in which like men did men's stuff, Open doors.
Speaker 1:got flowers for Valentine's. I mean we're talking basics here, David. Yeah, this is a question. David says dates are underwhelming.
Speaker 3:What do you mean, could you, could you elaborate? What do you mean by that? Because, I like dates, I do, I like everybody.
Speaker 1:Everybody's gonna hate me on these lives. Because, you know what my answers to David is? David, the dates are underwhelming because you plan them incorrectly. That's your job, david.
Speaker 3:That's not our fault, David. Tell me why you think.
Speaker 1:David, if the dates are underwhelming, you're a shitty planner. I don't know what to tell you. Dave, Step up your game.
Speaker 3:Yeah, like what Wise guy, I think planning a date is so predictable.
Speaker 1:Wise guy, if you live in Vegas, I could think of about eight million different types of dates that could be fun.
Speaker 3:Now, once again, the date should get funner as you get to know somebody right, it doesn't have to just be sitting there having a drink or a meal, but go out and do stuff yeah, you can go out and do stuff, but first you know we gotta take step A before we can get to Z.
Speaker 1:You gotta see if you even like the person first. Once you like the person, wise guy, the dates should be endless, especially in Vegas. You got great weather, you got all those fun hotels, you got shows, you got restaurants, you got strip clubs. I mean you got it all out there.
Speaker 2:I love.
Speaker 1:David, david, we need you on this podcast. Dates are underwhelming. I need David on here. I need to know what kind of underwhelming dates David's planning and he looks like a like I can't see the picture, but you look like you have a bandana or a hat on with the sunglasses and you got the goatee going. I mean you look like an attractive guy from what I can see.
Speaker 1:I can't really see the pictures because they're on the screen and they're small. See, this is fun, see. So, if you're watching us, if you're fans of us, we tape on Tuesdays around 10 am. What time is it now? It's almost 11 o'clock, eastern Standard. Come on, we want questions. We want you guys that are joining to even ask us questions as the woman. Bring it on, like, if you don't like something about us, like David here. He said the dates are on, bring it on, I'm ready, I'm ready.
Speaker 3:I'm ready.
Speaker 1:We need people, we need comments, we need social interaction. Okay, wise guy, he's our friend today. That's why random is more fun. Love the elements of surprise. Yeah, once you get to know somebody yeah, that's great.
Speaker 1:Like I had a guy, this old school guy that, yeah, that I was with for a long time. He was the best at that wise guy. He would like send a really cute outfit from burgdorf, like he knew, knew my size, he knew my style. He would send we were dating for a while, I mean, I'm going to say at least six months, seven months. He would send a really cute outfit with a killer matching pair of shoes and he would be like this weekend, you know, be ready, I'm going to pick you up Friday at 4.30. And we're going to go somewhere till Sunday and like everything it was like a Thomas Crown affair.
Speaker 2:It's hot when a guy does that Like.
Speaker 1:It means he has his shit together, he knows how to plan Taking charge, he wants you both to have fun.
Speaker 3:He's trying to make you happy. He's putting forth some effort, effort.
Speaker 1:We like effort here at Dating Daycare, not like David.
Speaker 3:David's back.
Speaker 1:David, you're back. Come on, jamung Jamung.
Speaker 3:Come on, guys, give us our questions come on guys, give us, give us our questions. So one element of spontaneity that I do not appreciate and I feel a lot of women do not appreciate early on early stages of dating when a guy rolls up on you at like 4 4 30 on a friday evening saying what, what you doing like meaning you're. You know his original plans fell through and you're the backup plan that's never happened.
Speaker 1:Yeah, never happened, yeah what happened to spontaneity?
Speaker 3:they would say, no, that's not the kind of spontaneity we're looking for no, nope, yep.
Speaker 1:So I think the element of surprise is good after you get to a certain point yeah, I do yeah, but I think that was good.
Speaker 1:I think I think we did good our first day. I think I think, you know, as time goes on, we'll get more viewers that'll be joining and we'll be able to make more episodes like this. Once again, if you're just joining Dating Daycare, please subscribe podcast. We help you navigate through the jungle of jerks Bruh that's like what my son always says Bruh 2024. Follow us, follow me. We don't have a TikTok page. We have a Facebook page and Individual IG. This is my TikTok HealthyChef1. You could follow me. We have a.
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Speaker 1:This is my TikTok healthy chef one. You could follow me. I post all our weekly sound bites for our episodes and then go download our podcast and we help you navigate through the jungle of jerks. And today we're taping a few different episodes, so stick with us because we'll continue our live throughout the whole process.
Speaker 3:But it's wild out there in those streets and we're trying to help you.
Speaker 2:Yeah, it's wild out there and we're trying to help you but stick with us.
Speaker 1:We're going to end this episode because I think we did good. We had our questions, we answered them. I hope you enjoyed it. Let us know, uh, write us, email us, let us know if you check the show notes and uh, you'll have all our contact info. Yeah, and we. We hope you had fun. Yeah, and we will talk to you soon. We'll be back next week for another fun episode of dating daycare. Bye.
