Dating Daycare
Welcome to "Dating Daycare," the ultimate safe space for women navigating the unpredictable world of modern dating. Join hosts Melissa Firpo and Allison Waterman as they dish out candid advice, share hilarious anecdotes, and tackle the toughest dating dilemmas faced by women today.
In a dating landscape filled with frogs disguised as princes and a jungle of jerks, Melissa and Allison offer a nurturing haven where women can laugh, learn, and empower each other to find love on their own terms. From ghosting to breadcrumbing, from disastrous first dates to navigating online profiles, "Dating Daycare" covers it all with wit, wisdom, and plenty of wine.
With Melissa's no-nonsense approach and Allison's comedic charm, each episode feels like a heart-to-heart chat with your best girlfriends over brunch. Whether you're swiping left or swiping right, "Dating Daycare" is your go-to guide for surviving and thriving in the wild world of modern romance.
So grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and join Melissa and Allison as they navigate the highs, lows, and hilarities of dating life. Because when it comes to matters of the heart, everyone could use a little TLC from "Dating Daycare.
Dating Daycare
When He Says You're the Love of His Life But Dates Someone Else
Ever been told you're "the love of someone's life" while watching them build a future with someone else? Our latest Fishbowl episode unpacks this painful contradiction alongside another heartbreaking scenario: a husband of 13 years abandoning his wife and children without financial support.
The first question comes from a woman who spent seven years in an on-again, off-again relationship only to watch her partner start dating someone else—while still telling her she remains "the love of his life." We dissect this classic manipulation tactic and explain why, if someone truly values you, there's rarely confusion about where you stand. When actions and words don't align, believe the actions. As grandma wisely advised: "Make sure he likes you more than you like him."
We also tackle a devastating story from a mother whose husband suddenly left her and their children for someone states away, providing no financial support. This scenario highlights why financial independence is non-negotiable for women, especially those with children. Having a separate bank account that only you control isn't paranoia—it's protection. When you have children, staying at a friend's house or living temporarily in your car isn't an option; kids need stability, proper facilities, and consistent schooling.
The conversation expands into a critique of 50/50 financial arrangements in relationships. If you're contributing half to all expenses with someone who's supposed to protect and provide, what benefit are you gaining? Your money should work for you—building security and enhancing your quality of life. Female financial empowerment isn't just about earning money but strategically preserving it for your security.
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Welcome to Dating. Daycare where we help you navigate through the jungle of jerks and we are back.
Speaker 1:We are back With a fishbowl episode, with a fishbowl, and we're live on TikTok too, so always look for our lives. Whenever we're in production, we go live. Yeah, it's a lot of fun. It is fun. Yeah, I'm loving it All right. Today we're in production. We go live. Yeah, it's a lot of fun. It is fun. Yeah, I'm loving it all right. Today we're doing a fishbowl. Allison is gonna read you guys, if you're just joining in and you don't know what our fishbowl is, we have a bowl full of questions from real women and men that we help you answer, because we are here to be your dating guides.
Speaker 2:Okay, let's see what we have here, oh.
Speaker 1:Allison picked a long one, all right.
Speaker 2:Okay, so the guy I have been seeing for around seven years, on and off, has recently started in a new relationship. We did fight a lot. We had a lot of issues with communication and understanding, so he's chosen to move forward with another woman. This has completely broken my heart. Even with all of our ups and downs, I'd hoped he'd do what he could do to be better for me and vice versa. Even though he is with this woman, he has told me I am the love of his life. No one will ever replace me. What is this Bunch of bullshit?
Speaker 2:I can't sleep. My thoughts are if you can love me, then how can you be with someone other than me? Am I being closed-minded to think this way? What am I missing? You're missing standards. I'm feeling overwhelmed, confused and heartbroken thoughts. So the first sentence so I have been seeing this guy for around seven years, on and off. That's your first mistake. What is that? Seven years, that's more than half a decade. What are you doing?
Speaker 1:What's the point? I don't. I really don't understand, but a lot of women get stuck in this. I hear this all the time, ladies, I always go back to this. I always go back to if he wanted to believe me he would.
Speaker 2:You're not his dream girl. He wouldn't do this to his dream girl. He's stringing you along. He's using you 100%. And she knows this.
Speaker 1:That's why she's asking the question. She knows this. That's why she's asking the question. Listen, if you have to question, if a guy likes you or a girl, for that matter, ladies and they don't like you. Then they don't like you enough.
Speaker 2:Enough, and they may like you to sleep with you or to be your therapist. You know when they're going through something.
Speaker 1:Right, they may like you.
Speaker 2:You're on call for that 100% yeah.
Speaker 1:But if you have to say you know what, I'm not sure if this guy really likes me. You know what? He's only calling me. It's been three months. He's only calling me once a week, or it's been on and off, or we fight all the time. And here's another thing. Well, you know, we fought a lot. Ladies have some standards. You're not supposed to fight at all. I mean yes you're married you get into arguments here and there, but this is supposed to be easier most of the time and hard maybe 25% of the time.
Speaker 2:Yeah, the split should be in your favor, with the good. Absolutely yeah, this sounds like she's, maybe, I don't know, 75% bad, would you say.
Speaker 1:And here's another thing You're not changing a leopard's spot, You're not. You know, we'll go back to.
Speaker 2:May. Yeah, yeah, yeah, let's use May.
Speaker 1:You're not changing my mind that I'm not dating a guy with young kids. I don't care if you're Jason Momoa, I don't care if you're-.
Speaker 2:Oh, not even him, no.
Speaker 1:No, I won't do it, even if, like Zoe Kravitz, I'll sleep with them. Okay, I'll sleep with them, but I'm not dating them.
Speaker 2:I mean, who wouldn't really?
Speaker 1:Right, well, some people don't like that look. I mean Anyway.
Speaker 2:If he was in front of you, I think he would change your mind, because he has that charm.
Speaker 1:But yeah, you know what I'm trying to say. You shouldn't have to change a leopard's spot. She's saying I thought he would change for me if he really loved me. But we fight all the time, you're not changing people's moral compass, or how they are, or what they like, how they're hardwired, or whatever Right You're not changing it.
Speaker 1:So this was just a foobar. From the beginning you liked him more than he liked you. That's why you stood there for seven years. That happens a lot. I always say ladies, and I know men are going to hate this.
Speaker 2:No, grandmas always say this to their like granddaughters.
Speaker 1:Make sure he likes you more than you like him.
Speaker 2:That's true, and it's true. I hate to say it, but it's true, it's true, yep, yep, that's our fishbowl.
Speaker 1:Should we do another one?
Speaker 2:Yeah, let's do another one. Let's do it, pick it Me, me again. Thank you, pick it, pick it.
Speaker 1:Dig deep, he'll come back to her. You're right, chung. That's what I'm reading, what the live says First five to drop.
Speaker 2:Okay, okay, okay, let's hear it.
Speaker 1:Honestly, I honestly, I'm just literally in shock. She's literally in shock.
Speaker 2:Okay, 13 years of marriage we'll help you get out of your shock. 13 years of marriage, two kids later, and he walks out on us days ago for someone states away, doesn't leave us a dime. I'm already short hours at work and I'm scrambling to figure out what to do. I just need some advice. I'm so extremely lost and now I have to go to apply for all kinds of shit because he didn't give me a heads up. So now I will be without.
Speaker 1:Fuck this, okay okay, what do I always say, ladies? I always say now it sounds like she works you always have especially if you have children.
Speaker 1:Listen before children, it's a different game. It's a different game. I could go sleep at 20 friends' houses by myself, or you know what I mean or in a tent on the street, if I had to. No, if I had to, my kids aren't. My kids aren't. They need a bathroom and they need to go to school, because it's law. Once you have kids, it is a total different animal. You need to protect yourself. I don't care if the man has $2, $5, $1,000,000, $50. And how do you protect yourself? You have your own bank account, maybe in your mother's name or your cousin's name or your sister's name okay, that's not in your name and you deposit money in it that he can't take from you when he walks out the door. That's what you do, ladies. I've discussed this before when you get married and don't get me wrong, I'm the one that's always like I don't want to work a day in my life. I would love to meet a man tomorrow.
Speaker 2:Says the woman with five jobs. Right Says one.
Speaker 1:No choice though I man up Because of the kids. Because of the kids. Even without the kids, I man up, but I there is nothing more in this life that I want to do than to have a Sit on a beach. Man who is nice to me, who treats me like a princess, who has a great job and a great work ethic. Take care of me and my biggest struggle during the day is what time I'm going to go to the gym. I mean, I'm praying still for that lifestyle.
Speaker 1:It will happen, it's coming, you know, but you still you can't just always taking care of me. Oh, 50-50. Let me give all my money away to the bills.
Speaker 1:And another thing if you weren't 50-50, honey and he manned up and took care of you and your children. All that money that you're it's okay to work all that money that you'd be bringing in from work would have been in a bank account to save your ass. Right now, I keep telling you, ladies, bring up those values. There is no 50-50. If you have to do 50-50, stay on your own and do it. Stay single and do it yourself. Why do you need to be with a man who's supposed to protect and provide to have to do 50-50 and take half of your money? Your money should be everything that you want it for the house, the kids, extracurricular activities, a new car, your Botox, whatever it is you want right.
Speaker 2:Yeah.
Speaker 1:Otherwise just stay single. Don't get married, have kids. I didn't get married, I have two kids and I do it on my own.
Speaker 2:You can't depend on the fairy tale, because it's not always going to work out that way.
Speaker 1:Right and, like I said, doesn't matter.
Speaker 2:Be prepared.
Speaker 1:Rich, poor, black, white, spanish, tall short. Like Cardi B says in her new song, they're all low down dirty dogs and this guy doing that to you had no moral compass. I'm sure you are panic stricken because that's walk out on you and you have kids states away, get them for child support and alimony, get to court quick and at least you'll get supplemented.
Speaker 1:Yikes, okay, yeah, all right, that is our fishbowl of the week Real questions from real women. We try to help you out. Keep them coming. And, ladies, we're getting a lot of married women let's get.
Speaker 2:We need some single ladies writing in. But yeah, just be smart yeah you have to be.
Speaker 1:Don't get lost in all the yeah, don't feel good hormones yeah you know it's crazy. It can't just be. Look at this guy. All you need is an Albanian man.
Speaker 2:Oh, I heard about you Albanian men.
Speaker 1:I've had experience you have Ooh and tell us Ladies maybe we need Albanian men. I know they have beautiful blue eyes. I worked with an Albanian pastry chef. Those eyes were piercing.
Speaker 2:So, as one Albanian woman once told me what they're all, cheaters Run Run as fast and as hard as you possibly can Like. You're the gingerbread man.
Speaker 1:Yeah, don't do it honey. Run, run as fast as you can Run like you're the gingerbread man, that's all.
Speaker 2:I have to say All right, Albanian man, you're not it doesn. You're not. We are rich and big.
Speaker 1:Yeah, we don't care about the freaking big. You know what? Here's another topic. These men think telling us how big they are is like a flex, you know. There is a point where it doesn't feel good anymore.
Speaker 2:It's too much If you have to tell us. But if you have to tell us this, to me like your mind is not in the right place.
Speaker 1:Not only that, but I feel like it's a Napoleon thing, if you're telling me.
Speaker 2:You're big, you're not.
Speaker 1:Of course, but I hope these men like remember you're not on TikTok. There's this girl on TikTok and she's like she has a ruler.
Speaker 2:Oh God. No, but it's funny.
Speaker 1:And she's like, if you're here, and it's like if you're here and it's like three inches, and she's like you don't get to speak to me, and she goes. If you're here, and it goes to five inches, she's like all right, we're getting somewhere. She goes six, we're perfect. She goes I'm not in pain and you're all good. She goes seven. She goes, she shows seven inches. She goes almost too much. And then she goes any bigger than seven, eight to 12. She goes where am I putting this? Where is it going? You know what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:So listen, how do you pronounce his name, Koja?
Speaker 1:Koja, koja. Now, the rich we can work with, we can work with that, but the big we you know. All right, all right. Well, that was a fun episode. Yeah, all right, ladies and gents, we hope we helped you on many different areas and we will be back soon on another dating day bye.
