Dating Daycare
Welcome to "Dating Daycare," the ultimate safe space for women navigating the unpredictable world of modern dating. Join hosts Melissa Firpo and Allison Waterman as they dish out candid advice, share hilarious anecdotes, and tackle the toughest dating dilemmas faced by women today.
In a dating landscape filled with frogs disguised as princes and a jungle of jerks, Melissa and Allison offer a nurturing haven where women can laugh, learn, and empower each other to find love on their own terms. From ghosting to breadcrumbing, from disastrous first dates to navigating online profiles, "Dating Daycare" covers it all with wit, wisdom, and plenty of wine.
With Melissa's no-nonsense approach and Allison's comedic charm, each episode feels like a heart-to-heart chat with your best girlfriends over brunch. Whether you're swiping left or swiping right, "Dating Daycare" is your go-to guide for surviving and thriving in the wild world of modern romance.
So grab your favorite beverage, kick back, and join Melissa and Allison as they navigate the highs, lows, and hilarities of dating life. Because when it comes to matters of the heart, everyone could use a little TLC from "Dating Daycare.
Dating Daycare
Breaking Up When Nothing's Wrong: Navigating Relationship Crossroads
Ever struggled with ending a relationship when the person hasn't done anything wrong? Or wondered about the ethics surrounding affairs and who deserves blame? Our latest fishbowl episode tackles these uncomfortable dating topics with candid conversation and practical advice.
First, we address a listener who feels guilty about breaking up with a perfectly nice guy just because the spark has faded and their values don't align. We remind her—and you—that gut feelings are valid reasons to end relationships. Staying with someone despite fundamental incompatibilities only leads to resentment and disappointment for both parties. The dating world might feel like we're all "treading water at best," but that's never a reason to compromise your happiness or lower your standards.
The conversation shifts to a heated debate about accountability in affairs. When married men cheat, who bears responsibility? While the spouse who broke their vows carries the primary blame, we discuss why maintaining personal boundaries against dating married individuals matters. Our take? Both participants in an affair demonstrate questionable moral compasses, and focusing on revenge or public shaming only prolongs your pain. As we say, "every dog has its day" and "the chickens always come home to roost"—karma has its own timeline.
Throughout the episode, we balance practical wisdom with humor (including a brief detour about the merits of White Claw as a responsible parenting beverage choice). Whether you're navigating a difficult breakup or healing from betrayal, our straightforward advice reminds you to trust your instincts and surround yourself with people who share your values. Join our community where we tackle dating's toughest questions with honesty, empathy, and a healthy dose of reality.
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Welcome to Fitting Daycare, where we help you navigate through the jungle, jerks.
Speaker 2:We're back.
Speaker 1:Grab your wine, grab your snack. We are doing a fishbowl.
Speaker 2:A fan favorite yeah, yeah, yeah. Or if you're a little basic, get yeah, yeah. Or if you're a little basic, get a white claw, but um I love a white claw. I and they're low carb and low, show you gotta suffer sometimes okay sometimes you have to suffer for the greater good.
Speaker 1:Okay, all right all right if you're in the backyard and you got the kids. A white claw is like a mini buzz, but a safe buzz where you're still capable of functioning. Still right. I love a white claw like if I'm laying out by the pool, all right. So fishbowl we. Real questions, hi scotty, for real women uh, we have.
Speaker 2:Sorry, I'm like responding to the tiktok, so if you hear me talking to random people, tiktok, but real women, real questions.
Speaker 1:We pick them out of our fishbowl and we read them to you. We try and help. That's what we do here. We're here to help ladies altruistic bunch okay so need advice.
Speaker 1:So I've been dating this guy more a few months now, okay, so she's been dating him a little more. He has been nothing but nice and hasn't done anything wrong. He treats me well, however, there's always a however. I just don't see a future with him. I feel like we have different opinions on stuff and the spark just isn't there anymore. I feel guilty breaking up with him because he hasn't done anything wrong in parentheses, but I just don't see the relationship going far. How do I end things with him without breaking his heart and but having any valid reasons other than my gut? You don't.
Speaker 1:Your gut's good enough. Keep your standards, keep your boundaries and listen. This is a hard situation because we're all out there, right? We're all out there in the sea, treading water at best.
Speaker 2:But that's the risk you take when you're dating. There's always a chance that you're gonna get your heart broken. You can't prevent that.
Speaker 1:You just have to do it in the gentlest way possible well, she's concerned about breaking his heart because she said there's nothing wrong with him, he's basically a great guy. But I'm just there. We have different opinions on different things. The spark isn't there anymore and she feels guilty giving up a good guy even though the good guy isn't for her. And I get this because, like I said, we'reading water, there aren't a lot of good guys out there. But that doesn't mean that you lower your standards, your morals, because you're going to hate this guy In eight months if your opinions are different you're going to resent them and you're going to be disgusted.
Speaker 1:You're not going to want to have sex with them and that's going to be the, as adults we do it too, so right. As adults, we are allowed to say you know what? You're a great person. You're just not for me.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's it. That's it Right and it's good dating karma to just 100% you don't lead people on, Plenty of men.
Speaker 1:Do that all the time Like remember our last fishbowl she was dating him seven years. I mean talk about leading on. Oh my Lord, all right, let's get another one. I'm going to dig deep. I'm really going to try my hardest to dig deep. Get a good one, I'm trying, all right.
Speaker 2:Oh God, this is a tome, oh God.
Speaker 1:Wait a minute, okay. The amount of women in here Now remember, I get these off of different sites, different social media sites, so it's a group the amount of women in here that say she owes you nothing he does in regards to cheating husbands, wives, et cetera, drives me nuts. Everyone deserves respect and if these women knowingly have an affair with a married man, they need to be called out of if so and respect goes both ways. They don't owe you the same loyalty as a spouse, but they owe you the respect of human being and owe your children, if you have them, respect as well. I kind of feel like this is a new meta of women. Saying she owes you nothing is because some of you are the ones that are cheating with married men and you don't want to be called out when you're caught. Just had to get that off my chest. Don't want to be called out when you're caught, just had to get that off my chest.
Speaker 1:So what's our opinion on this? This is a big thing, because let me tell you something I always say this, ladies and gents when I'm out there in the wild, 90% of the men that hit on me are married, and we all know, if you're fans here at Dating Daycare, that I do not. It is a boundary, it is a stipulation. I do not. It is a boundary, it is a stipulation. I do not date married men. I don't care if you're Jason Momoa, bill Gates, who's Amazon guy, jeff Bezos, couldn't care. I don't date you. Bad karma. I agree with this woman, but I don't get myself into those situations. But I know plenty of my friends that have dated married men. Really, yes, were they married?
Speaker 1:They were single. Okay. But listen, this is my opinion. You're dealing with two people without a moral compass, and I always come back to this moral compass. You're not changing people's moral compass. So your husband, if this is your husband and he's cheating on you, has a horrific moral compass. So your husband, if this is your husband and he's cheating on you, has a horrific moral compass and no balls. Because I always say you could not be happy in a marriage. I wasn't happy. I wasn't married, as we all know. But I was with my partner for eight, nine years. I wasn't happy. I said leave, this isn't working. Leave, I didn't go cheat, have him find out, this isn't working. Leave I didn't go cheat, have him find out and then leave Like you can leave anytime you want. Just say it. Get a divorce, hire a lawyer and get some papers. So the men that do that have no balls.
Speaker 2:Yeah, she's saying, call out the women too. But I mean, yeah, but you're not married to them. You took the man, took the oath, yes, so just let it go. Not married to them you're, you're.
Speaker 1:You took the man, took the oath, yes, right, so just, and the woman that he's and you know what, and the woman that he's cheating you on you with has no moral compass either. So you got two people with no moral compass. They deserve each other, and if the new girl thinks that he's not going to cheat on her, when he gets sick of her. That's a whole nother episode.
Speaker 1:I mean, it sounds like this woman probably got cheated on and she just wishes she said she didn't and no I haven't been cheated on vice versa but I feel like those of you that have been deserve retribution, if you choose.
Speaker 1:That was the kind of where she was getting at like she would love to have this woman like publicly outed and whipped or something right like, like a maid's tail, yeah right, yes, uh, but yeah, no, but it doesn't happen on just move on yeah, you know well, when you find out your husband cheats on you, it's hard to move on, I know. But just I mean to have.
Speaker 2:You know, of course, allow yourself to feel those things, but you, if you kind of marinate in that for too long, it it it starts to manifest yeah, like, uh, absolutely jades you toxicity right kind of right.
Speaker 1:Just keep your own moral compass and date people that have the same moral compass as you, and you'll be fine that's that right yeah yeah, I mean, everybody gets their karma. I say that every dog has its day oh, just like remember.
Speaker 2:We had that guy on earlier where he cheated on his first wife and then he wound up getting cheated on by the second. It comes back it does took a while.
Speaker 1:As they say in the wolf of wall street, the chickens will come home to roost.
Speaker 2:Yeah, all on their own. So, don't you worry.
Speaker 1:That word of advice is from the Duchess of Bay Ridge Straight to you. Okay, well, thank you for joining our fishbowl. We hope we helped and we will talk to you soon.
Speaker 2:Thank you Bye.
